So, you are a guy, and you are out and about. She walks past you, or, she may be standing in the frozen food aisle. You want to say hi, but you don't. She walks past and appears busy. What if she's married, you wonder. You try to catch a glimpse of her ring finger and see it bare. You walk forward, but hesitate. A million and one thoughts flow through your mind. You don't think that she thinks that you are her type. Or, you think that she doesn't think that you are her type. You're too tall, not tall enough, have hair that is too short, too long, your gut has expanded over the years, you wore the wrong shoes, socks, or shirt. You forgot to shower and/or shave. You haven't worked out in a a few months and aren't at your peak. Your only six pack is in the fridge, so on and so forth. Yet, as soon as you take a few deep breaths and muster up the courage, she walks out the door, or as it seems, out of your life forever.
From what I hear, this is the story of the single guy. The plight, the anxiety and the journey of the man who has yet to meet the girl of his dreams.
Well guys, single, soon to be or considering it, I am here to rescue you. I am here to put your fears to rest and give you a few pointers. It's so much easier than you think. Go get a beer, sit back and relax.. Laura is here to save you.
Let's say you are out and you see me. You are drawn to me, for whatever odd reason. Maybe it's my smile, or my fantastic sense of humor. You really want to approach me. Guess what? Unless the Apocalypse hits at exactly that moment, feel free to walk up and say hi. Comment on something around me. Ask me what isle the cereal is. Hold out your hand and introduce yourself. Do something, anything to catch my attention.
What you can expect from me are a couple of things. First off, I will be polite. I will shake your hand. I will try my very best to remember your name. I will probably hold a general conversation with you. Lastly, if I am interested in you, I will let you know.
How, you may ask? Well, let me tell you. A couple of ways I show a guy I am interested are fairly simple. First off, I will face you. I will smile. I will usually make some sort of physical contact with my hand. This may including pushing you in a joking sort of way or handing you something to look at. I will ask your opinion in order to keep the conversation going. This may be along the lines of sports or something I think you may be interested in.
If we chat for a bit and you see any of the "vibes" above, ask for my number. If I give you my card or phone number, that means I am interested. This means I would like for you to call within 24-48 hours. Or, if you want to be really sporadic, suggest we meet at the closest Starbucks. If I am available and interested, I will go, if not, I will definitely ask for a rain check.
A story from years gone by comes to mind. I was out for New Years with some girlfriends. We were at a bar. By chance, this guy was standing very close to me. We turned towards each other and said hello. He really wanted to talk, but I told him I was leaving. I stated I would be at my last outing around 11:30pm. At my final destination, he showed. We ended up dating awhile and I have very sweet memories. I asked him during out relationship what would have happened had I not been interested. He said he would have moved on, that he would have met someone else.
What I appreciated most about this guy was his confidence. This was the type of guy who could say hi to a girl without expectations.
What us girls want you guys to know is that we know it's hard to approach us. We appreciate if you do. Even if we are married or in a relationship, it is flattering. We are sorry if some girl before us blew you off, crushed you in front of your friends. Yet, why is that stopping you today? Each and every time you let us walk away just gives another guy the opportunity to kiss us goodnight.
All we are really saying is that you have to try, try again. Practice. To help you out, I have made an analogy most men can relate to. Start out by talking to the guppies in the bowl. Stand next to a small fin who doesn't intimidate you and strike up a conversation. No worries, right? When you are comfortable enough, chat up the bluegills in the lake. Fish by fish, word by word. You will notice that you are still breathing, even while underwater. Eventually, you will master the art of fishing, and as we all know, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
